Moving On… Final Post here at Successful Christian Remarriage

This will mark our final post here at Successful Christian Remarriage.

Our marriage is stronger than ever. We will continue to offer our prayers and advice to those who want their remarriages to grow. We feel that God is leading us in other directions, so we will be migrating the posts on this blog to another website. This blog will be shut down in the upcoming months of 2016.

The advice that you have come to expect from this blog will become available on Loraine’s author website at www.lorainenunley.com

“I Do… Over? A Christian’s Guide to Remarriage” will continue to be available for purchase on Amazon.com.

Thank you to all of our readers. It has been an honor to share our journey with you. We pray that God will continue to bless your remarriages every day.

Moving On... Final Post at www.successfulchristianremarriage.com

A prayer for my marriage: Being pro-active

Heavenly Father,

Today, please bless my marriage.

Help me to be pro-active in how I deal with my spouse.

Teach me about the depths of my spouse’s personality.

Show me the ways in which I can anticipate the needs of my marriage.

Silence my tongue in the midst of conflict.

Caution me to think before I speak.

Shield my heart from any temptation.

Keep my words and actions to those that will build my marriage.

Thank you for the gift that my marriage and my spouse are to me.

In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Pro-active vs. Re-active Marriage

We tend to be proactive in how we deal with life in general and particularly our marriage. We are both that way because of our individual personalities but having previous marriages in our pasts has also contributed to that tendency to be pro-active vs. re-active.

Re-active vs. Pro-active Marriage: www.successfulchristianremarriage.comBeing pro-active requires getting to know our spouse inside and out. We don’t become mind readers, but we are able to better anticipate how they will respond to things. More importantly, we get to know what builds them up which, in turn, makes us better spouses.

Is your marriage pro-active or re-active?

A Prayer For My Spouse – Dreams

Heavenly Father,

Today, please bless my spouse and their dreams.

Reveal to them what dreams you have for them.

Give them the desire to pursue those dreams.

Fill them with the strength to seek out their dreams.

Encourage them to seek you and other Godly counsel while pursing their dreams.

Give them the strength to step away from those dreams that are not Your will for them.

Comfort them for the loss of any dreams.

Surround them with friends and family who will support their dreams.

Give them the gift of your presence today.

Reveal yourself to them in your Word.

Show them their worth in you and let their godly characteristics shine through.

Lift them up when they feel overwhelmed.

Help them be humble in their attitude.

Show me how to positively encourage them in their dreams.

Let them feel my love for them.

Thank you for giving me the gift that my spouse is to me.

In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Prayer Series – Dreams

It is a blessing enjoyed by humans – the ability to dream.

Psalm 126:1-3

When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dream.
Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The Lord has done great things for them.”
The Lord has done great things for us; we are glad.

We all have dreams. Whether we recognize them as such or ignore them. Whether we attain them, strive for them, or toss them aside. There is something to be said about our spouse and their approach to their dreams. We are talking about dreams as in ambitions rather than the dreams that fill our sleeping hours, although sometimes they can do both.

What are your spouse’s dreams? Are they possibilities? Are they childhood dreams or those that have come with the maturity of life? Do they have dreams that they will never achieve? Do they have dreams that have already come true? Do they have dreams that have been modified in some form? Do they acknowledge their dreams? Are they chasing their dreams? Have any of their dreams been crushed? Do they ignore their dreams? Have they been forced to put aside their dreams?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their dreams.

Pray that God show your spouse the dreams that he wants them to achieve.

Ask God to reveal Himself to your spouse in those dreams.

Ask God to help your spouse set aside any dreams that He does not want them to pursue.

Pray that God give your spouse the strength and motivation to chase their dreams.

Ask God to give your spouse the wisdom to know what dreams to pursue and when.

Ask God to give your spouse the patience to wait on His timing for those dreams.

Pray that God give your spouse others who will lift them up in pursuing their dreams.

Ask God to put people in your spouse’s path that will help them pursue those dreams.

Ask God to provide comfort for those dreams that must be changed.

Pray that all of your spouse’s dreams will glorify God.

Ask God to show you how you can help your spouse determine their dreams and pursue them.

Thank God for those dreams that have already come true for your spouse.

A Prayer For My Spouse – Struggles

Heavenly Father,

Today, please bless my spouse and their struggles.

Reveal to them what those struggles are if they are unaware of the specifics.

Give them the desire to do what they can to deal with those struggles in a healthy way.

Fill them with the strength to deal with their specific struggles.

Encourage them to seek you and other Godly counsel in walking through those struggles.

Give them the strength to step away from those things that make the struggles unnecessarily worse.

Surround them with friends and family who will support their relationship with You.

Give them the gift of your presence today.

Reveal yourself to them in your Word.

Show them their worth in you and let their godly characteristics shine through.

Lift them up when they feel overwhelmed.

Help them be humble in their attitude.

Show me how to positively encourage them in their struggles.

Let them feel my love for them.

Thank you for giving me the gift that my spouse is to me.

In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Prayer Series – Struggles

There was only one time in humanity when we did not have to struggle.

Genesis 3:23

…therefore the Lord God sent him out from the garden of Eden to work the ground from which he was taken.

We had it made in the Garden of Eden. All of our needs were supplied. Once sin entered the picture we became creatures of struggle. We all struggle with something. Perhaps many things. Your spouse has struggles that are unique to them. We speak in generalities here because we do not know what is specific to your spouse, but you can tweak these questions and prayer to be specific if you need to.

What kind of struggles does your spouse have? Do you know them? Are there things that they struggle with that they cannot see? How do they deal with the struggles they have? Do they internalize the struggles? Do they communicate those struggles? Do they deal with those struggles directly? Do they ignore the struggles until they no longer can? What struggles appear to be the hardest ones for them to deal with? Are there ways that you can help them with their struggles?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their struggles.

Pray that God show your spouse what they struggle with if they are not already aware.

Pray that God reveal himself in a mighty way in the midst of their struggles.

Ask that God comfort your spouse and walk beside them during those struggles.

Ask God to give your spouse the strength to deal with these struggles in a healthy way.

Pray that God provide other people to help your spouse with those struggles that are too big for them to handle on their own.

Pray that God give your spouse the motivation to walk through those struggles.

Ask God to give your spouse wisdom and discernment in dealing with their particular struggles.

Ask God to help your spouse put Him first in their life.

Ask God to show you how you can be an encouragement to your spouse while they struggle.

Thank God for what a blessing your spouse is to you.

A Prayer For My Spouse – Relationships

Heavenly Father,

Today, please bless my spouse and their relationships.

Reveal to them what the state of their relationships are.

Give them the desire to do what they can to make their relationships better.

Fill them with the strength to deal with those relationships that they struggle with.

Encourage them to cultivate those relationships that are healthy for them.

Give them the strength to step away from those relationships that are harmful to them.

Surround them with friends and family who will support their relationship with You.

Give them the gift of your presence today.

Reveal yourself to them in your Word.

Show them their worth in you and let their godly characteristics shine through.

Lift them up when they feel attacked.

Help them be humble in their attitude.

Show me how to positively contribute to their relationships.

Let them feel my love for them.

Thank you for giving me the gift that my spouse is to me.

In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Prayer Series – Relationships

Whether your spouse is an introvert or an extrovert, whether their family is large or it is made only of you, your spouse will have relationships outside of you and God.

John 15:13-14

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you.

God created humans with a need to be relational. To have a relationship with Him as well as others. Some relationships are out of necessity, others are out of love and loyalty, still others are held together by tenuous threads. No matter what kind of relationships your spouse has, they will always have a need for prayer over them. Prayer is the one thing that you, as a spouse, can do to help them.

What kind of relationships does your spouse have? How are their relationships with their family, their friends, their co-workers? Does your spouse have particular relationships that are in need of prayer because they are damaged or weak at best? Are there any relationships that they would like to see healed or strengthened? Are there relationships that they need to be healed from? What relationships would your spouse consider good? Are there relationships that they need encouragement to build? Are there relationships that they should cultivate? Are there relationships that they need to step away from? What things could they do to make their relationships better? Are there ways that you can help them make those relationships better?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their relationships.

Pray that God show your spouse the state of their relationships.

Ask God to heal any of your spouse’s broken relationships.

Ask God to give your spouse strength to walk away from harmful relationships.

Pray that God give your spouse motivation to work on their relationships.

Ask God to shine a light on your spouse’s good relationships.

Pray that God show your spouse how to cultivate good relationships.

Ask God to give your spouse good relationships.

Pray that God protect your spouse from bad relationships.

Ask God to give your spouse wisdom and discernment in all of their relationships.

Ask God to help you spouse put Him first in all of their relationships.

Ask God to help you be helpful to your spouse in dealing with their other relationships.

Thank God for what a blessing your spouse is to you.