Jesus knew their thoughts and said to them, “Every kingdom divided against itself will be ruined, and every city or household divided against itself will not stand. –Matthew 12:25
We have heard this statement often; even President Lincoln used it in a speech. It is a very important thing to remember in your marriage, especially in remarriage. We can get so caught up in trying to tread water during the storms that we forget that we are in this marriage together. We are not alone; we have each other and God. There are many things (or people) that can be used to tear apart that bond. It is such an important bond that God uses marriage to illustrate what His relationship is with us and with the church. Because it is so important, it is also one of those bonds that are always under attack. If you are married, you just have to accept the fact that there are forces working toward destroying that bond. It is unavoidable, no matter how good your marriage is. That is why we have to be diligent in protecting it. Having a United Front simply means that we stand together, in unity, for the common purpose of protecting something – in this case, protecting our marriages.
Though one may be overpowered, two can defend themselves. A cord of three strands is not quickly broken. – Ecclesiastes 4:12
Those of us in remarriages, particularly ones with stepchildren, are well versed in the attacks intent on breaking the bonds. We must have a united front as a couple, even in our own households with our own children. So how do we do that? There are a few simple ways to work on it. Number one: Always hold your spouse in a high level of respect which means that you do not put your spouse down or let others do it. Number two: Even when you disagree, particularly on parenting issues, have any heated discussions between you privately. Many times, when we are on the front lines of the battlefield, we forget that our spouse is on the same side with us. It is not you against each other; rather, it is you two against the world. If you have a united front, as the Bible says, you will be stronger and better able to withstand attacks.