In reading the biblical passage when Jesus asks Simon Peter three times, “Do you love me?” (John 21:15-19), it brought to mind this question: where was the emphasis on the sentence? Did Jesus emphasize the same word for all three times, or were there different meanings each time He asked the question? How would you answer that question from your spouse depending on the emphasis?
Do you love me? Of course your spouse is loved by others. First and foremost, God has always loved your spouse, even before you came along. And then there may be parents, kids, other family members and friends who love your spouse. But does your spouse really feel that you love them?
Do you love me? Of course you love your spouse. You got married didn’t you? But sometimes we mistake our emotions for true love. Sure, we feel love, we fall in love, but deep long lasting love requires more than the emotions. It requires work and sacrifice. The emotions are what bring you together and they are the icing on the cake, but you must develop the deeper part or there is no cake under the icing. Does your spouse know that you really love them?
Do you love me? Of course you love your spouse. If you didn’t, you would have pledged your devotion to another. But one of things that is a BIG issue with remarriage, is that we bring along baggage, this includes the EX. Remarriages have to deal with the fact that there was another person. In order to survive and thrive, there can be no question that what you feel for your spouse, you do not feel for anyone else. You must make sure that your spouse is without any doubt that you love them.