A prayer for my marriage: Being pro-active

Heavenly Father,

Today, please bless my marriage.

Help me to be pro-active in how I deal with my spouse.

Teach me about the depths of my spouse’s personality.

Show me the ways in which I can anticipate the needs of my marriage.

Silence my tongue in the midst of conflict.

Caution me to think before I speak.

Shield my heart from any temptation.

Keep my words and actions to those that will build my marriage.

Thank you for the gift that my marriage and my spouse are to me.

In Jesus name I pray, Amen.

Prayer Series – Dreams

It is a blessing enjoyed by humans – the ability to dream.

Psalm 126:1-3

When the Lord restored the fortunes of Zion, we were like those who dream.
Then our mouth was filled with laughter, and our tongue with shouts of joy; then they said among the nations, “The Lord has done great things for them.”
The Lord has done great things for us; we are glad.

We all have dreams. Whether we recognize them as such or ignore them. Whether we attain them, strive for them, or toss them aside. There is something to be said about our spouse and their approach to their dreams. We are talking about dreams as in ambitions rather than the dreams that fill our sleeping hours, although sometimes they can do both.

What are your spouse’s dreams? Are they possibilities? Are they childhood dreams or those that have come with the maturity of life? Do they have dreams that they will never achieve? Do they have dreams that have already come true? Do they have dreams that have been modified in some form? Do they acknowledge their dreams? Are they chasing their dreams? Have any of their dreams been crushed? Do they ignore their dreams? Have they been forced to put aside their dreams?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their dreams.

Pray that God show your spouse the dreams that he wants them to achieve.

Ask God to reveal Himself to your spouse in those dreams.

Ask God to help your spouse set aside any dreams that He does not want them to pursue.

Pray that God give your spouse the strength and motivation to chase their dreams.

Ask God to give your spouse the wisdom to know what dreams to pursue and when.

Ask God to give your spouse the patience to wait on His timing for those dreams.

Pray that God give your spouse others who will lift them up in pursuing their dreams.

Ask God to put people in your spouse’s path that will help them pursue those dreams.

Ask God to provide comfort for those dreams that must be changed.

Pray that all of your spouse’s dreams will glorify God.

Ask God to show you how you can help your spouse determine their dreams and pursue them.

Thank God for those dreams that have already come true for your spouse.

Prayer Series – Struggles

There was only one time in humanity when we did not have to struggle.

Genesis 3:23

…therefore the Lord God sent him out from the garden of Eden to work the ground from which he was taken.

We had it made in the Garden of Eden. All of our needs were supplied. Once sin entered the picture we became creatures of struggle. We all struggle with something. Perhaps many things. Your spouse has struggles that are unique to them. We speak in generalities here because we do not know what is specific to your spouse, but you can tweak these questions and prayer to be specific if you need to.

What kind of struggles does your spouse have? Do you know them? Are there things that they struggle with that they cannot see? How do they deal with the struggles they have? Do they internalize the struggles? Do they communicate those struggles? Do they deal with those struggles directly? Do they ignore the struggles until they no longer can? What struggles appear to be the hardest ones for them to deal with? Are there ways that you can help them with their struggles?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their struggles.

Pray that God show your spouse what they struggle with if they are not already aware.

Pray that God reveal himself in a mighty way in the midst of their struggles.

Ask that God comfort your spouse and walk beside them during those struggles.

Ask God to give your spouse the strength to deal with these struggles in a healthy way.

Pray that God provide other people to help your spouse with those struggles that are too big for them to handle on their own.

Pray that God give your spouse the motivation to walk through those struggles.

Ask God to give your spouse wisdom and discernment in dealing with their particular struggles.

Ask God to help your spouse put Him first in their life.

Ask God to show you how you can be an encouragement to your spouse while they struggle.

Thank God for what a blessing your spouse is to you.

Prayer Series – Relationships

Whether your spouse is an introvert or an extrovert, whether their family is large or it is made only of you, your spouse will have relationships outside of you and God.

John 15:13-14

Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends. You are my friends if you do what I command you.

God created humans with a need to be relational. To have a relationship with Him as well as others. Some relationships are out of necessity, others are out of love and loyalty, still others are held together by tenuous threads. No matter what kind of relationships your spouse has, they will always have a need for prayer over them. Prayer is the one thing that you, as a spouse, can do to help them.

What kind of relationships does your spouse have? How are their relationships with their family, their friends, their co-workers? Does your spouse have particular relationships that are in need of prayer because they are damaged or weak at best? Are there any relationships that they would like to see healed or strengthened? Are there relationships that they need to be healed from? What relationships would your spouse consider good? Are there relationships that they need encouragement to build? Are there relationships that they should cultivate? Are there relationships that they need to step away from? What things could they do to make their relationships better? Are there ways that you can help them make those relationships better?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their relationships.

Pray that God show your spouse the state of their relationships.

Ask God to heal any of your spouse’s broken relationships.

Ask God to give your spouse strength to walk away from harmful relationships.

Pray that God give your spouse motivation to work on their relationships.

Ask God to shine a light on your spouse’s good relationships.

Pray that God show your spouse how to cultivate good relationships.

Ask God to give your spouse good relationships.

Pray that God protect your spouse from bad relationships.

Ask God to give your spouse wisdom and discernment in all of their relationships.

Ask God to help you spouse put Him first in all of their relationships.

Ask God to help you be helpful to your spouse in dealing with their other relationships.

Thank God for what a blessing your spouse is to you.

Prayer Series – Contentment

Content: A state of satisfaction

Philippians 4:11

I am not saying this because I am in need, for I have learned to be content whatever the circumstances.

Being content is an important thing because if we are content, our focus can be more securely on God and those things that He has called us to do. Sometimes when we feel that something is perfect (or very close to it), we perceive that as being content. We can be content in those circumstances, but the key, as Paul states in Phil. 4:11, is that we be content whatever the circumstances. Our prayers this week will focus on our spouse obtaining contentment in any of their circumstances (good, bad or indifferent).

Do you think your spouse is content overall? Is your spouse content some of the time? Is your spouse discontent? How would your spouse describe their level of contentment? Does your spouse recognize the importance of being content? Does your spouse recognize that true contentment comes from God? Is your spouse plugged in to God? Does your spouse actively seek out ways to attain contentment in their lives? Is your spouse struggling with discontentment in their lives? Are there specific areas of their lives that cause them to be discontent regularly? Is your spouse positive or negative by nature? Are there ways that you can help them with any struggles they have to find contentment? What things do you say and/or do that add to or detract from your spouse’s contentment?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their state of contentment.

Pray that God show your spouse the state of their contentment.

Pray that God show your spouse true contentment.

Ask God to help your spouse with those areas of discontentment in their lives.

Pray that God gives your spouse the desire to know Him more.

Ask God to give your spouse the strength and motivation to do those things that build up contentment.

Pray that God will remove those things that are a distraction to your spouse in growing with Him.

Pray that God walk with them through their journey to be content whatever their circumstances.

Ask God to show Himself to your spouse in tangible ways.

Ask God to help you be an encouragement to your spouse.

Pray a blessing over your spouse and their state of contentment.

Thank God for what a blessing your spouse is to you.

Prayer Series – Prosperity

(Merriam Webster Definition) Prosperity: the state of being successful usually by making a lot of money

A Christian’s definition of prosperity should be more than money, particularly since money tends to be a stumbling block for most of us.

(Our definition) Prosperity: the state of being successful in life at those things that matter most to God, i.e., our relationships with God and others.

Matthew 16:26

For what will it profit a man if he gains the whole world and forfeits his soul? Or what shall a man give in return for his soul?

Probably most of us would like to be more prosperous in regard to our finances. That is what we tend to focus on when we hear the word “prosperity”. But being prosperous is so much more according to God. It is the blessings that God wants to give to His children. Sometimes that is monetary. More often it isn’t. That’s okay because we should want to experience all of the blessings God wants to give us. We want our spouses to experience God’s full blessings on their lives.

In the definition that we have applied, do you think your spouse is prosperous? Do they feel like they are? What blessings would you like to see God bestow upon them? Are there things that may be getting in the way of your spouse receiving those blessings? Are there repeating sins that hinder those blessings? Is your spouse aware of those things that hinder their prosperity? Is your spouse aware of the prosperity that they already enjoy? Are they thankful for that prosperity? Do you support them when God raises them up? How are you contributing to their prosperity or lack thereof?

Take the time to think about the answers to some (or all) of these questions. How would your spouse answer these questions about themselves?

This week, focus your prayers on your spouse and their prosperity.

Pray that God shows your spouse how He loves them.

Ask God to reveal the blessings that your spouse already experiences.

Pray that God give your spouse wisdom to make choices that honor that prosperity.

Pray that God remove any barriers that your spouse has to obtaining prosperity.

Ask God to reveal anything that may be hindering their prosperity.

Pray that God give them the strength to change those things that may be a hindrance.

Ask God to give your spouse the right attitude for prosperity.

Ask God to show you how you can positively contribute to them being prosperous.

Pray that God give your spouse humility in the midst of prosperity.

Ask God to take away any fears or doubts that your spouse has about prosperity.

Pray a blessing over your spouse and their prosperity.

Thank God for the blessings that your spouse has and the blessing that they are to you.

Stay Tuned… Prayer Series

We are excited to be ushering in the upcoming months with a new series on prayer. We will be looking at different ways that you can pray for your spouse and for your marriage. What type of things can you pray for specifically that will benefit your marriage? God wants us to come to him with our requests and he is looking for us to have a conversation with him in our prayers.

Are there any questions that you have concerning prayer? Do you have any topics of prayer that you would definitely like to see us address? Please tell us by leaving a comment on this blog post or by contacting us via email at: admin@successfulchristianremarriage.com

We are also adding a new page to our blog – Prayer requests. If you have a prayer request, you may leave it on that page. Please also visit this page if you are a prayer warrior and would like to hold our brothers and sisters in Christ up in your prayers.

Why Do We Wait To Pray?

As Christians, there are certain things that we need to do regularly to maintain and build our relationship with God. Prayer is one of those things. Think about it. What relationship would last if there was no communication between the parties involved? Prayer is our way of communicating with God. Prayer is our conversation with God. Sometimes you want your prayer to be more formal, like beginning with “Dear God’, or “Heavenly Father”, etc. and ending with an “Amen”. But God also enjoys those moments when we just talk to Him, out loud and/or in our heads; those informal, comfortable moments when God knows it is Him we are speaking to and He doesn’t need a formal address to tell Him that. Now, true communication is about give and take. It is not one sided. Sometimes we treat prayer like a wish list. We ask God for blessings and maybe we thank Him in the process for the ones He has already bestowed on us. But do we listen to God during these prayers? If we do not, then we are not truly communicating with Him. It is this listening that makes our regular prayer a form of Divine guidance. We need His Divine guidance to guide us in the ways that we must behave to be a good Christian, to grow in our Christian walk and to introduce others to God. Unfortunately, we often use our prayers as a means of Divine intervention instead. We don’t pray regularly and then when we are overwhelmed by big things in our lives, we go to God. At this point, we are beyond the guidance seeking and looking for the intervention of God. Will we need intervention from God in our Christian walk? Of course. Do we need to pray at those times? Absolutely. But we have to ask ourselves this question: If we were in regular communication with God, seeking His guidance, would we need His intervention as often?

Let us pray – The importance of prayer in your remarriage

Knock, knock

Who’s There?

Lettuce

Lettuce Who?

Lettuce Pray!

Our children love this joke.  What a good reminder for us to pray.  Prayer is very important overall.  It is the most direct way that we communicate with God.  Prayer strengthens us and it pleases God.  In the Bible, Paul tells us to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thessalonians 5:17-NKJV).  The Bible is filled with instructions on, not only praying, but how to pray as well.  So God considers this important.  To state it in the simplest of terms, prayer is when we talk to God.  Any good relationship must include good communication.  This includes talking.  So if we want to have a good relationship with God, we work on our prayers (our communication) with Him.  If we want to have a good relationship with our spouse, we work how we talk with one another.  Let’s take this a step further and talk with God jointly.  First of all, the Bible tells us that “…where two or three gather in my name, there I am with them” Matthew 18:20 (NIV).  So if you and your spouse are praying together, God will be there in a powerful way.  Secondly, it is uplifting for us to hear our spouse pray on our behalf.  Third, due to the number of emotions that arise when we are praying, we experience a new level of intimacy together.  Fourth… well, let’s just say that the list of benefits is long.  As prayer makes our relationship with God stronger, our prayer as a couple makes our marriage relationship with God stronger.  So how should we pray as a couple?  One thing to consider is that you are a unique couple with unique personalities so the way you pray, just like the way you pray individually, will be unique to you and your relationship with God.  If you have not spent time praying as a couple, it may feel awkward the first few times you do it.  But don’t let that stop you, the benefits are definitely worth the initial awkwardness.  This is how we tend to pray together (although it varies depending on how God’s presence moves us): we find a quiet place (usually our bedroom with the door closed), we hold hands, sitting or kneeling (with age, the kneeling sometimes is a little more difficult, but on those occasions, we know God understands).  We decide which one of us speaks first; also this is depending on how we are feeling, what we are praying about and how God moves us to speak.  One of us will speak and then we will let the other speak.  As you can see there is much room for variation because, let’s face it, when we have conversations with each other, we do not rehearse and repeat things so when we speak with God it should be natural as well.  The most important thing is to talk to God, just like you are having a conversation with a friend.  It doesn’t need to be (and really shouldn’t be) something that drips with religious symbolism.  Pray with your spouse and let us know how it works for you.